Like most parents, we try to schedule regular date nights. We go out for dinner or to the movies, one time we went roller skating which was fun.
If we haven’t had much time together in the lead up to a date though, then sometimes it takes me an hour or so to warm up, and for us to find our rhythm again. We need a transition time from being parents to being a couple.
For our last date night but, we managed to skip that initially awkwardness completely and add some more movement in our lives. We decided to walk along the river for about an hour to a neighbouring suburb for dinner. I brought along two flasks of gin, mineral water and lemon and we said bye to the kids and set off.
Walking and talking is so much easier than talking across a table! Who knew! We chatted for an hour and strode along the river, enjoying the evening, fresh air and holding hands.
By the time we sat down for dinner opposite each other, I felt comfortable, relaxed and connected to David.
Since studies have shown that walking increases creativity, and that even a short time outside improves mood, I guess is actually fairly logical that walking outside would improve communication by couples. We have also tried it out a few times when we’ve needed to have a difficult discussion, and I think it has helped us to be more open to what the other person is saying.
It can be hard to stay connected and communicate well with your partner post kids, so talking while walking is definitely something to try. And don’t forgot to bring along your grown-up drinks!